Wednesday, December 3, 2014

7 things my 10 year old self wouldn’t have believed about my wedding.


Denise and I have been married for over 2 weeks now, so it’s time to share some wedding photos! But it’s also time to share the 7 reasons why my wedding was nothing like what I expected it to be as a little girl:


1. I married a woman.

When I was 10 years old, I would have been mortified to learn that I would say “I do” to a girl.


“Really?! No way. I’m going to marry a MAN! He’s going to be really sweet, and handsome, and he might even take me away on his white horse.”


Wake up, kiddo! Some men are great, and you’ll even find some of them attractive, but you’ll never be truly happy with them. One day you’ll meet an incredible woman, and the relationship will be everything you ever hoped it would be, and you’ll marry her. I know you think it’s weird, but trust me on this one.


WomanSee, you’ll really be happy with her!



2. I got married at a courthouse.

When I was 10, I would have been confused to find out that I was going to have my wedding at a courthouse.


“A what? No way. I’m going to get married at a CHURCH! Because churches are pretty, and that’s where you’re supposed to have your wedding.”


Yeah, never mind the fact that you’ve never been baptized, and that you won’t follow any organized religion when you grow up. Also, please remember that you’ll marry a woman… This isn’t happening, kid!


Courthouse 1See, a courthouse is not too bad.


Courthouse 2It can even be somewhat pretty!



3. My wedding dress was purple.

My 10 year old self would have laughed at the fact that my dress was not a traditional color.


“This is completely ridiculous. A purple dress?! No way. My dress is going to be WHITE! Because white is pure and I’m innocent.”


Um, maybe not. Purple will be just fine, and if you drop some food on your dress, no one will even notice. Oh and I might as well tell you now: your wife will have the same purple dress. Yes, you become that cheesy.


DressSee, purple dresses are just as beautiful.



4. We had 3 guests.

The 10 year old Julie would not have been happy with such a small guest list.


“Surely you must be mistaken. Only 3 guests? No way. My wedding will be GRAND, with people surrounding me everywhere. It will be so magnificent that the whole town will be there.”


No, in fact you won’t want to invite anyone. You’ll realize that the only person who matters on this special day is your wife, and you’ll want to spend every little second with her and her only. You’ll still invite your mom and your son (yes, you’ll have a kid before you get married), and his dad (the photographer). This will be enough.


GuestsYes, I assure you, an intimate wedding is truly what you want.



5. I got married in the fall.

At 10, I would never have picked November 17 as my wedding day.


“You’re not serious, are you? No way. I’m getting married in the SUMMER! Because I’ll be able to wear my pretty white dress outside and the photos will be stunning.”


Believe me, you’re definitely getting married in the fall. Even better, the first snow will be falling on your wedding day, and it will be magical.


SnowSurprise, it’s possible to take photos outside even in the snow!



6. We ate sushi, and there was no cake.

At 10, I didn’t know that sushi even existed, and that it would become my favorite food in the world.


“I have no idea what you’re talking about. Sushi? No way. We’ll serve CHICKEN, and maybe beef, and maybe even shrimp, and we’ll have the biggest wedding cake you’ve ever seen.”


As surprising as it sounds, you don’t really care about cake that much when you grow up. Your food of choice is raw fish, and you’ll be delighted to eat it on your wedding day. (You’ll be proud to know that you also fulfill your dream of creating a penpal club, where your superhero name is Super Sushi!)


Sushi 1Yum! Yes, I promise you’ll like it.


Sushi 2Even your guests will enjoy the meal.



7. I went to Old Québec on my honeymoon.

Spending your honeymoon in your own country is a concept that would have baffled my 10 year old self.


“Don’t you know that you’re supposed to go to some exotic country on your honeymoon? Québec City? No way. I’m going to THE BAHAMAS!”


Alright, but I’m sorry to announce that I’m not coming with you! My wife and I will be exploring Old Québec for 3 days instead.


HoneymoonSee, there are some charming places around here too.

You don’t need to go to the end of the world to have fun!



Overall, I think my 10 year old self would not have been ready to know the truth. But it’s OK, I’ll let her dream… She’ll come around, eventually. And she’ll finally realize that happiness comes when you’re true to yourself and you stop wanting things you think you should have, and start accepting that what you actually want is completely different. Only then can you truly be fulfilled.


HappinessJulie, I know it’s not what you thought it would be…

But you’ll see, it’s even better, because it’s REAL.

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14 Responses to “7 things my 10 year old self wouldn’t have believed about my wedding.”

  1. <3 this is awesome. I am so so happy for the both of you!! Love the photos! Congrats xoxo

  2. This is wonderful! My fiancee and I are planning on honeymooning in Old Quebec after we get married! I’ve been there twice and it was beautiful and magical each time.

  3. all of you look so happy….I love the smiles and the love you can feel when you look at the pictures. You both look just beautiful and so in love. I’d say this is a fairy tale wedding! may you be this happy and in love always.

  4. Awwwwwwwwwwww, you guys look every bit as adorabibble as I’d envisioned. And yes, your 10 year old self would’ve never guessed just how wonderful breaking tradition can be. May you both have a beautiful life together ’cause you are being true to yourselves. Hooray!!!! ♡

  5. Thank you so much for sharing the pictures. You two are so cute together. Best wishes always.

  6. Lovely photos!! I already said I love purple so the dresses are great! My own wedding dress was kind of pale purple with butterflies and flowers on it, so not traditional either! And we also got married in a registry office. But you can get married to a girl in a church, btw! It depends on the church! My Dad officiates at weddings in the Unitarian Church in Edmonton, Alberta, and he specialises in same sex weddings. So, at least that church wouldn’t turn you girls away! If you ever want to renew your vows in Edmonton, (though I know it is a little far from Quebec, ha ha) I know just the officiant for you ;)

  7. Congratulations! Beautiful photos! Life has a way of giving us the happy endings that are meant to be for us. I have been to Old Quebec myself for a cousin’s wedding some years ago. Thanks for sharing. I was among those who sent you a wedding card in the mail. (New Jersey)

  8. Julie, c’est super! J’aime beaucoup ta robe. Je pense que vous ont trés jolie. Un bon vie à toi et Denise.

    Merry Christmas and all the best for 2015 to you and your wife.


  9. Awww that’s wonderful! Congrats ladies :)

  10. How wonderful for sharing this post with us. These photos are gorgeous! My compliments to the photographer for taking stunning pictures :)

    Awe, I understand the “10 year old self” and the adult now… Crazy how much growing up changes your perspective and life.

    Again, Congratulations!!! Happy Holidays if I don’t hear from you before then.

  11. Absolutely wonderful, you both look simply beautiful in the photos. Congratulations, Merry Christmas, and happiness always to you and your loved ones.

  12. This is so lovely. Thank you for sharing.
    Congratulations! May you have many, many years of wedded bliss!

  13. Awe, I only just saw this. How wonderful! I’m really happy for both of you, you look lovely in your purple dresses!

  14. Il y a parfois de ses hasards. Hier, j’ai pensé à toi. Rien de super hot, ni compromettant mouaha, mais tu es passé comme un éclair dans mes pensées et voilà, je me suis dite qu’est-ce qu’elle est devenue après toutes ses années. Je me rends compte que ta maman n’a pas changée, que ton fils est super grand et que tu es mariée. Je suis ravie que la vie amène du bien et que les choses se place pour le mieux. Ne voulons-nous pas que le bonheur des gens malgré le passé. Je suis convaincu que tu vis comme tu le souhaites, bien entourée et heureuse et cela, je suis sincèrement contente que tu as retrouvé ta moitié perdue. Longue vie, bonheur à toi, Denise et au penpalling ;)


My name is Julie and I'm 37.
I'm French Canadian and fell
in love with an American,
so I'm now living in Vermont
with my wife.

I write letters, I love stationery and I have a handwriting fetish. I often eat sushi, still feel like I'm 16 and only wear skirts & dresses (with colorful tights when it's cold).

I'm happier with a mind full of ideas, a mailbox full of letters from my penpals, a shop full of stationery, a house full of pens and a day full of hugs.

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