Denise and I have been married for over 2 weeks now, so it’s time to share some wedding photos! But it’s also time to share the 7 reasons why my wedding was nothing like what I expected it to be as a little girl:
1. I married a woman.
When I was 10 years old, I would have been mortified to learn that I would say “I do” to a girl.
“Really?! No way. I’m going to marry a MAN! He’s going to be really sweet, and handsome, and he might even take me away on his white horse.”
Wake up, kiddo! Some men are great, and you’ll even find some of them attractive, but you’ll never be truly happy with them. One day you’ll meet an incredible woman, and the relationship will be everything you ever hoped it would be, and you’ll marry her. I know you think it’s weird, but trust me on this one.
See, you’ll really be happy with her!
2. I got married at a courthouse.
When I was 10, I would have been confused to find out that I was going to have my wedding at a courthouse.
“A what? No way. I’m going to get married at a CHURCH! Because churches are pretty, and that’s where you’re supposed to have your wedding.”
Yeah, never mind the fact that you’ve never been baptized, and that you won’t follow any organized religion when you grow up. Also, please remember that you’ll marry a woman… This isn’t happening, kid!
See, a courthouse is not too bad.
It can even be somewhat pretty!
3. My wedding dress was purple.
My 10 year old self would have laughed at the fact that my dress was not a traditional color.
“This is completely ridiculous. A purple dress?! No way. My dress is going to be WHITE! Because white is pure and I’m innocent.”
Um, maybe not. Purple will be just fine, and if you drop some food on your dress, no one will even notice. Oh and I might as well tell you now: your wife will have the same purple dress. Yes, you become that cheesy.
See, purple dresses are just as beautiful.
4. We had 3 guests.
The 10 year old Julie would not have been happy with such a small guest list.
“Surely you must be mistaken. Only 3 guests? No way. My wedding will be GRAND, with people surrounding me everywhere. It will be so magnificent that the whole town will be there.”
No, in fact you won’t want to invite anyone. You’ll realize that the only person who matters on this special day is your wife, and you’ll want to spend every little second with her and her only. You’ll still invite your mom and your son (yes, you’ll have a kid before you get married), and his dad (the photographer). This will be enough.
Yes, I assure you, an intimate wedding is truly what you want.
5. I got married in the fall.
At 10, I would never have picked November 17 as my wedding day.
“You’re not serious, are you? No way. I’m getting married in the SUMMER! Because I’ll be able to wear my pretty white dress outside and the photos will be stunning.”
Believe me, you’re definitely getting married in the fall. Even better, the first snow will be falling on your wedding day, and it will be magical.
Surprise, it’s possible to take photos outside even in the snow!
6. We ate sushi, and there was no cake.
At 10, I didn’t know that sushi even existed, and that it would become my favorite food in the world.
“I have no idea what you’re talking about. Sushi? No way. We’ll serve CHICKEN, and maybe beef, and maybe even shrimp, and we’ll have the biggest wedding cake you’ve ever seen.”
As surprising as it sounds, you don’t really care about cake that much when you grow up. Your food of choice is raw fish, and you’ll be delighted to eat it on your wedding day. (You’ll be proud to know that you also fulfill your dream of creating a penpal club, where your superhero name is Super Sushi!)
Yum! Yes, I promise you’ll like it.
Even your guests will enjoy the meal.
7. I went to Old Québec on my honeymoon.
Spending your honeymoon in your own country is a concept that would have baffled my 10 year old self.
“Don’t you know that you’re supposed to go to some exotic country on your honeymoon? Québec City? No way. I’m going to THE BAHAMAS!”
Alright, but I’m sorry to announce that I’m not coming with you! My wife and I will be exploring Old Québec for 3 days instead.
See, there are some charming places around here too.
You don’t need to go to the end of the world to have fun!
Overall, I think my 10 year old self would not have been ready to know the truth. But it’s OK, I’ll let her dream… She’ll come around, eventually. And she’ll finally realize that happiness comes when you’re true to yourself and you stop wanting things you think you should have, and start accepting that what you actually want is completely different. Only then can you truly be fulfilled.
Julie, I know it’s not what you thought it would be…
But you’ll see, it’s even better, because it’s REAL.